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When we're faced with a child in the throes of a temper tantrum, it's hard for us to pay attention to the fact that tantrums aren't all the same. Some tantrums are brought on by a child's frustration and fatigue while other outbursts may be due to attention-seeking or demanding behavior - "I want!" and "I need!" The best way to handle temper tantrums in children is to understand the types of tantrums that exist. That way we can respond to different types of temper tantrums with the right responses to help our children regain control.
Frustration or Fatigue Related Tantrums
Young children may be frustrated when we can't understand what they want, and older children may be upset because they're unable to put something together or get something to work. In these situations, the best response is exercising positive parenting through encouragement and understanding. But the trick is that the encouragement and understanding have to come before our children reach a full-speed, no-turning-back tantrum. Try saying, "I know you want to tell me something. Show me what you need," or "I know it's hard to work this toy, but you'll get better at it. Can I help you?" Praise also helps. Give praise for trying, praise for not giving up, and praise for not having a full-blown tantrum.
Attention-Seeking or Demanding Tantrums
Children also throw temper tantrums to get their own way, and in many situations tired, embarrassed parents tend to "give in." We've all done it even when we know we shouldn't. (Remember the grocery store?) These types of tantrums involve more violent behavior: kicking, slamming a door, hitting, or even breath-holding. How can we deal with these temper tantrum fits?
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